As First-Gen Latinas, many of us grew up learning how to be selfless and giving to others. Our parents sacrificed to provide a better quality of life for us which may have caused feelings of guilt for wanting more. In this post I’m going to give you some tips on how to build your self-worth because you deserve the best life has to offer and it’s time to own and recognize that.
Your life is a reflection of what you currently believe is possible for you. Take a minute to reflect on your current reality. How do you feel about your home environment? What about your career or job? And what about your relationships (romantic and platonic)? If you are realizing that life could be better for you, I’m inviting you to explore your relationship with your self-worth.
When you don’t feel worthy of living a fulfilling, expansive life, you’ll naturally revert to settling for less. You’ll allow yourself to stay in a job that doesn’t value you for example. Or you will stay in a relationship that doesn’t feel quite right. You’ll continue living a bland ordinary life, just coasting by. But you’ll still feel that something is missing. You’ll still have a heavy or uncomfortable feeling weighing you down. That’s because deep down you know that life can be better. Yes, you can get there. Here are some of my tips on how to build your self-worth so you can create the life you deserve.
Take the time to reflect
My first tip on how to build your self-worth is to take the time to reflect. Ask yourself how you feel about your current life circumstances. Aside from that, reflect on what you value and what you want to bring into your life. It also helps to recognize your journey, knowing that everything needed to happen the way it did on purpose. It all brought you to this very moment. Reflect on what you would’ve done differently if you had the chance and finally, reflect on your accomplishments.
By reflecting, you’re establishing the self-awareness needed in order to create change. This is helping you to not only bring awareness to but also intention to your personal growth journey.
My next tip is to create boundaries. Now that you have reflected on where you are in life and where you’d like to be, you have a better idea of the boundaries that need to be established. This is the time to choose to say “no” to everyone and everything that doesn’t serve you. You don’t owe anyone anything so it’s time to stop living out of a place of guilt. By saying no to everything that drains your energy, you’ll make room for things that feel expansive and provide a more intentional life. Choose to surround yourself with positive and supportive people because this will uplift and encourage you to progress in a positive way.
Another tip on how to build your self-worth is to prioritize self-care. Taking the time to care for your mental, physical or emotional wellbeing is super important. If you find it difficult to do this, remember the oxygen mask analogy. You can’t serve others without serving yourself first. Prioritizing self-care is the least selfish thing you can do. Start with something small like giving yourself 10 minutes a day to walk outside to get fresh air and clear your thoughts. Here is a list of 60 self-care ideas in case you feel stuck on how to start.
Improve your self-talk
The way you speak to yourself is vital. If you are constantly putting yourself down, that is giving others permission to do the same. Treat yourself the way you’d treat a friend you respect and love. If you find this to be difficult, I invite you to explore further. You may need to forgive yourself for previous life choices. Decide to do what it takes to cultivate a more compassionate relationship with yourself. This will help build your self-worth in the process.
Look for role models
As First-Gen Latinas, many of us grew up seeing our immigrant relatives overworking themselves while not being valued enough. Essentially settling for less. Recognize that times were different back then. It is safe to want more out of life. Your parents and family want this for you too. So look for role models who look and sound like you because as you may know, representation matters. By having role models, it helps build your self-worth because you’re seeing the possibilities that are available to you too.
My final tip on how to build your self-worth is to focus on your personal and professional development. Invest in yourself and in honing new skills. When you set and accomplish goals, it will boost your confidence and this will help build your self-worth in the process. Remember to celebrate and focus on your “wins” no matter how “big” or “small” they are. By creating and accomplishing goals, you’ll find that you are worthy of other things in other areas of your life too.
A final thought I have about how to build self-worth is that this is an ongoing process. Everyone is on their own individual journey so don’t compare yourself to others. Remain focused and make the time and effort to remind yourself of your inherent worth. You are already worthy of having everything your desire. You are worthy of living the life of your dreams simply for being alive. There’s nothing you need to do, explain or prove to “become” worthy. You’ve been worthy all along.
If you are looking to go deeper in this work, I have space for 2 private coaching clients so book your consultation call here. Feel free to DM me on Instagram at any time with questions or feedback. And finally, make sure you sign up for my newsletter so you never miss a blog post or other things I’m up to! Thank you for reading!!
Let’s work together!
- If you’re really ready to create the life you want
- If you want to increase your happiness and feel more confident in who you are
- If you want to trust yourself more and live on purpose
I can help you! Schedule your clarity call to work with me HERE!